What’s Your Attachment Style? (Quiz)

How this attachment style quiz works

This quiz asks 10 quick questions about everyday relationship moments: a slow reply to a text, a quiet evening, a big weekend together, the hours after an argument. Each answer leans toward one of four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant. Your result is the style that showed up most often in your answers.

Answer for how you usually feel in close relationships, not how you think you should feel. It takes about a minute, there’s no sign-up, and the scoring happens in your browser. Want to compare? Send the quiz to your partner and see how your two styles fit together.

A quick, honest note

Attachment theory is a real and well-studied idea in psychology, but this quiz is a light reflection tool, not a clinical assessment or a diagnosis. Ten questions can’t capture your history, your current relationship or the way you change with different people. Most of us show a mix of styles, and the mix can shift over time. If you want the full background, read our guide to attachment styles in relationships.

The most hopeful part of the research is this: attachment patterns are not fixed. People move toward security through steady, kind relationships, honest conversations and, for some, support from a counselor or therapist.

What to do with your result

• Treat it as a conversation starter. Share your result with your partner and ask, “Does this sound like me?”
• Notice your patterns during disagreements. Our guide to conflict styles in relationships explains which habits help couples repair.
• Look for the good stuff too. These green flags in a relationship are what a secure, steady connection tends to look like.
• Get talking. These questions to ask your partner are an easy way to learn how each of you feels close, safe and cared for.
• If a pattern feels painful or keeps repeating, consider talking it through with a licensed therapist. That’s a sign of strength, not a problem.

Whatever you get, remember that every style developed for a reason, usually to help you feel safe. Understanding it is the first step toward relationships that feel calmer and closer.

All possible results